How Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin become parents together

When Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin announced their “conscious separation” in 2016 after 13 years of marriage, the couple knew they wanted to approach raising their two children together carefully.

“I really wanted my children to be as traumatized as possible,” Gwyneth told Drew Barrymore in 2020 about the turbulent time. “Chris and I made a commitment to put them first, and that’s harder than it looks.”

“But (Chris) and I both really didn’t want her to experience the divorce as a trauma…” she said Hectic in 2023.

“We knew it would be tough, of course, but we didn’t want them to ever feel caught in the middle or like one of us was putting the other down.”

“At that time, I did something completely my own. When I realized I wanted a divorce, I collected data and talked to adults who came from broken homes,” the actress explained.

“Every single one of them said, ‘I didn’t care that my parents were getting divorced. That wasn’t it… But the fact that they weren’t talking to each other anymore, that they couldn’t both sit at the dinner table on my birthday…’ They said that was the worst.”

“You could see that they were enduring it with so much pain and anger,” she continued. “I thought to myself, ‘I’ll never do that.’ And we really didn’t.”

Today, more than eight years later, the couple is still an exemplary example of how to maintain a healthy dynamic in their blended family.

While Gwyneth and Chris are both in long-term relationships with Brad Falchuk and Dakota Johnson respectively, their focus is on their children Apple (19) and Moses (17).

“You know, there’s no book about it,” Gwyneth admitted earlier this year during a Q&A about co-parenting and her situation as a stepmother to her partner’s two children. “Nobody tells us what to do. And in fact, all the media that shows us what a stepmother is, we’re portrayed in an evil, villainous light.”

“So it’s like trying to avoid landmines. And then you come into a family with dynamics. And there are all kinds of fears of loss and the question of what does this person mean?”

“But for me, the moment I decided and fully believed that my stepchildren are my children and I love them just as much and gave them the same rules and boundaries and just wholeheartedly embraced it, the whole thing became easier. And now it’s pretty great.”

In March 2024, Dakota spoke with Hectic about her relationship with Chris, his ex-wife Gwyneth and their two children.

“I love these children as if my life depended on it. With all my heart,” she said of Apple and Moses.

Alluding to her relationship with Chris, Gwyneth and the kids, Dakota told the publication, “I grew up in such a big family and I just believe in the saying ‘blood is thicker than water’ … The bonds you have with people you choose are stronger than the bonds you have with the people you’re actually born with.”

She described Chris, Gwyneth, Apple and Moses as her “new family,” adding: “Even in my adult life and in my new family, most of us are artists. Even the children are extraordinarily talented people. So you’re just dealing with complex people.”

Who are Chris and Gwyneth’s children?

AppleMartin

Apple Blythe Alison Martin was born on May 14, 2004 in London and her unique name made international headlines.

Gwyneth explained the name in an interview with Oprah when Apple was nine months old: “Basically it was because one day when we were pregnant her daddy said if it’s a girl I think she should be called Apple and it just sounded so sweet and conjured up such a beautiful image in my mind, you know, apples are so sweet and they’re healthy and it’s biblical and I just thought it sounded so beautiful and then she was born and it caused an international uproar, which I found surprising because there are people named Rose or Lily or Ivy or June or lots of beautiful nouns.”

17-year-old Apple has made headlines for looking like her mother’s little twin. She is currently a freshman in college and her mother described her in an interview with Hectic“Your values ​​are in the right place.”

Moses Martin

On April 8, 2006, Martin and Paltrow welcomed their second child, Moses Bruce Paltrow Martin.

Gwyneth and Chris’ youngest child is now 17 and frequently appears on his parents’ social media accounts. In April 2023, Gwyneth penned a sweet tribute to her son on Instagram in honor of his birthday.

“Happy 17th birthday to the boy who fills my soul every time I look at him,” Gwyneth captioned the selfie of her and her son. “@mosesmartin you are the most special, kind, loving person. You make us all laugh with your perfect impressions and inspire us with your harmonies. I adore you more than you could ever imagine!”