Chris Olsen and other stars give advice to those who find it difficult to come out
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Yes, it will be better if everyone Portia de Rossi To Laverne Cox And Neil Patrick Harris announced the first viral video about the launch of a nonprofit organization to help LGBTQ+ youth struggling with fear, rejection, bullying, and loneliness.
But when you are in Itthis low point that only feels like it is rising from here terrible frightening.
“Telling his family is a huge deal,” said the Texas-raised actor Matt Bomer told OUT Magazine to come out to his conservative Christian family. “I really see my life as being divided between the time before I told my parents and the time after. And the decisions I made and the life I led before and after are completely different. It’s like night and day.”
And although the letter he sent them (“I would have been disoriented if I had tried to send it to them personally”) led to “radio silence for a very, very long time, at least six months” and then to “the outburst that I had always feared,” he has no regrets.
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“We got past that and set about figuring out how to love each other,” he told the outlet. “I would say within a few years we started figuring it out. It was a struggle. It’s a struggle for anyone to take their paradigms and beliefs and notions and completely flip the script.”
But for those who want to start a new chapter, we have the right support.
In honor of Pride Month, we asked stars to share the best advice for those who want to live their true selves, and they did it. See what Andy CohenTikTokers Chris Olsen and other celebrities had their say at the start of this very important conversation.
Andy Cohen
If a big coming out conversation seems too daunting, Andy Cohen suggests only one small step forward. “My advice would be to find a friend you can tell,” My Father’s Diaries: The Year I Came of Age The author told E! News: “All you need is a friend that you know will support you. And that friend can be your island and you can just evolve from there.”
It also helps to remember that things are rarely as bad as they seem. See what’s happening live The moderator put it this way: “In your head, it is always worse than it will be.”
Chris Olsen
Find your crew and love them. That’s the most important thing TikToker Chris Olsen “Surround yourself with support, whether it’s your blood relatives or your chosen family,” he suggested. “There are people who are willing to love you for who you are. When you have those people around you, you create an environment where you feel safe to come out.”
Jonathan Bennett
It’s totally grool if you’re still trying to sort out your life, stresses Girls Club – Be careful, they bite! alum Jonathan Bennett. “To all the LGBTQ+ kids out there trying to figure out who they are in this world, remember that most adults haven’t figured it out either. I still haven’t,” said the Food Network host, who recently celebrated his second anniversary with his husband. Jaymes Vaughan“But remember: If you are simply alive and present in the moment, you are never too much and you are always enough.”
Chrishell Stause
Quite simply, the real ones will always be on your side, stressed Chrishell Stause“If someone really loves you, your happiness should always come before their beliefs,” explained the Sell sunset Star, recently married to singer G Flip“Never conform to other people’s ideas about your life. It is yours and you only get one.”
G Flip
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“Be patient with yourself,” advised the singer of “Be Your Man” G Flip“Everything comes in waves, there will be hard times, but there will also be good times. All my most euphoric moments have been the most criticized in my life.”
The Australian’s love life is now firmly in the spotlight, thanks to her romance with Sell sunset Star Stause, G Flip, added, “The path to your authentic self is never easy given the judgments of the world, but just stay true to yourself because you are beautiful.”
Francesca Farago and Jesse Sullivan
While Francesca Farago told E! News that it is “the most liberating feeling in the world to live your truth,” said the reality star’s fiancé Jesse Sullivan knows it can be too much for some. “If I had come out as transgender maybe 10 years ago, I honestly don’t think I would have gotten the hate that I get now,” the TikTok personality said. “I think it’s a really hard time specifically to be transgender.”
Therefore, he continued, “I can’t really say to a young person, ‘You should just come out to your parents.’ I don’t think it’s safe to say that. I think we live in a world where that could cause harm.”
Instead, the father explained to the 15-year-old Arlohe recommends finding your way in another universe. “We live in a world where you can literally find a community on your phone, your laptop, or your iPad. And that’s how I started,” he noted. “There are communities everywhere and people who support you and love you. And that’s the best way to come out when you feel like you don’t have a safe place.”
Kenny Niedermeier & Armando Rubio
For 90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way alum Kenny NiedermeierLove is actually everywhere. “It’s going to be hard at first,” the reality star admitted, “but in the end you’re going to feel so much better when you’re free of that burden and those chains. Your life is yours and whoever really loves you will be there. For some people, it’s going to take a while, but they’ll come around.”
However, it is a message that is hard to believe, even for his current husband Armando Rubio. “If you don’t come out, you think ‘it’s not going to work out for me’ and you live in fear,” the Mexico native told E! News. “But I really believe that it pays off and it’s a blessing when you love yourself, when you’re at peace with yourself and, I think, to a certain point, when you’re selfish and you put yourself first.”