Gareth Southgate reveals he got coaching tips from a management book by a Mormon professor

In the book, Covey stresses that in the long run it is better to win for everyone than alone. This is reflected in the fact that the England national team now calls their substitutes “finishers” whose job it is to decide games in the closing stages.

The manual, first published in 1989, states that a second habit is to focus on what you can control and take responsibility for your own response to your experiences. This is also relevant to Southgate’s lessons from his pain in the penalty shootout.

The third lesson is: “First try to understand, then you will be understood.” That is, take the time to listen, then others will do the same to you.

Covey, who came to England as a practicing Mormon for his two-year missionary work, also says to give priority to matters that are both urgent and important and then put important things before merely urgent ones.

The final principles are to work toward how you want to be remembered, to combine the strengths of teamwork to accomplish what cannot be done alone, and to “sharpen the saw,” which means exercising, reading, contributing to the community, and renewing health and energy.

Covey was named one of the 25 most influential Americans by Time magazine in 1996, and his best-selling book sold 20 million copies before he died in a bicycle accident in 2012.